For father Danny Jones, 27, of Portsmouth, being a dad may mean a lot of life changing responsibility, but it is also a lot of fun – especially when he and his daughter Charlie could start their own father-daughter comedy act.
Danny grew up in a strong, Catholic family with a brother and eventually a younger sister. Having a family looked like the cool thing to do.
“I’ve wanted kids since I was a kid,” Danny said. “And I believe that is because as a child I always thought me and my brother seemed like we must be really fun because my parents were always hanging out with us. So, you know, kids must be awesome.”
Danny further explained that he always had strong male influences in his life, men he could look up to.
“I come from a long line of fathers, on both sides of my family,” he stated. “It tends to skip a generation, but fathers go back pretty far.”
Three years ago, Danny found out that he was going to be a father. He could not have been more excited.
“I was ecstatic,” he said looking back. “I couldn’t wait to find out what we were having and couldn’t stop thinking about what the baby would look like.”
Soon, Danny found out that he was going to have a daughter. He and his girlfriend, Courtney Taylor, decided to name her Charlie after Danny’s dad. He counted down the days until his daughter would come. Once she arrived, he struggled to let her go.
“When she was born, we stayed at the hospital for four days,” he remembered. “Charlie and I cuddled up next to her mom at night on the hospital bed because we couldn’t take turns.”
Since the day she was born, Danny has enjoyed watching her grow into the person she will one day be.
“Every month after she was born, she had more and more personality,” he said. “Now she’s just all over the place and thinks that she is in charge of the house, which she totally is.”
In just more than a month, Charlie is going to become a big sister, and Danny is going to have two daughters. Watching Charlie react to the change has been especially exciting for the dad. He looks forward to seeing her respond once the baby arrives.
“She has already been telling her stories through mommy’s belly button,” he joked. “She won’t let me touch her mother’s stomach either. She slaps my hand and says, ‘No, that’s my baby sister.’ To which I have to explain that she’s my baby, and I helped make her.”
Both stubborn, Danny and Charlie will have no problem going to nose-to-nose in debate.
Danny says he and Taylor have not yet picked a name for the new baby. Unfortunately, the big sister is not being much help.
“I try to get Charlie to pick names, but she’s horrible at it,” Danny said honestly. “As her best name for the baby so far is ‘Trash Can.’
So, Charlie probably should start by naming hamsters, maybe a puppy.
That silly, spunky personality of Charlie’s is Danny’s favorite part about parenting.
“The best parts of being a dad is knowing that I am helping to completely mold another humans personality, her sense of humor, wit, intelligence, etc.,” the father who is always full of wit and sarcasm stated. “And the fact that she knows when something is funny is very fulfilling in that aspect of parenting.”
Danny has so much fun with his daughters, he make parenting look easy. Though he has a blast and loves every moment, he has had to sacrifice.
“Being a father realistically is just how I had expected it to be,” he stated. “I always have friends ask me if I knew then what I know now would I wait longer to have children, and I always tell people that I would have had kids 10 years ago because when you wait until you think your life is stable then you will realize when you have kids that it isn’t going to be stable anymore. But if you have kids while working for a stable life, the kids are too young to realize any of that. And they grow into stability with you all at once.”
Working towards that stability and working for others has resulting in making sacrifices for others and making major lifestyle changes. Though Danny had great male figures showing him how, balancing time and finances so that his family gets enough of each has been the most difficult part.
“I was raised with the old school sense of ‘manning up,’” Danny explained. “So I’ve tried to consistently work to provide for the family so that her (Charlie’s) mother can stay home. And finding ways that I can continually do that along with maximizing my time with them at home is stressful.”
Prior to having Charlie, Danny worked for the railroad, a job that did not provide that balance.
“Which is why I originally quit the railroad to move to Texas to tattoo full-time,” he commented. “And is why I am at my current company, because I can burn through a three week schedule in one week and spend three weeks home with them.”
Charlie holds her daddy’s heart in her hand, and her new sister already does as well. It is that aspect that is Danny’s biggest concern. He worries that his children will grow up to be too spoiled. He also worries that something will happen causing them to need him while he is working out of town. Though parenting comes with worries and stresses, Danny would never give it up.
“All in all the impact I think being a father has made on me is very positive,” he said. “I think when you truly appreciate the responsibility of having children and appreciate the opportunity to mold young minds it is a very rewarding feeling. And, it really shows how selfless you can become.”
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